‘We are poorly dressed’—Part 2 Nicole Starling

(I wonder whether it is significant, by way of contrast, that the whole exercise of wisdom-collection in the OT is associated with the time of Solomon, when Israel enjoyed “rest from all their enemies” and the king could spend his days entertaining the Queen of Sheba and swapping proverbs.)

Yes, this seems to be at the centre of what you’re saying. We are on war footing and can’t be too fussed about the armour we are wearing into battle. Enough for attack, enough for defense.

Hi Nicole, thanks for the posts.

I fear that this comment should have come after the first one, but here it is anyway.

Rather than the Prov 31 women being understood as a real person, isn’t ‘she’ the personifcation of wisdom? Folly in the book of proverbs is also portrayed as a women, but the not-so-nice kind, the one who seduces men into back streets.

But just to keep everyone happy, wisdom is also represented as the father who instructs his son in the fear of the Lord. We also see folly as the sluggard who is too lazy to bring the food from his plate to his mouth!

The point is that there is just as much for men in Prov 31 as there is for women. (I know someone who spoke at a mens breakfast on this passage and called it, ‘The women you want to be!’)So I’m not sure if restricting the metaphor to a real person is getting the complete picture of the end of Proverbs?

Having said that, I enjoyed your posts nevertheless!

Hi Scott,

What evidence is there of this very strange interpretation of Proverbs 31?  In proverbs 8 the woman ‘wisdom’ is called ‘wisdom’; the woman ‘folly’ is called ‘folly’.  These are very obvious markers of metaphor.  Chapter 31 presents a real, earthy female character. 

Furthermore, is Lemuel’s mother (31:1) figurative because she is a woman? 

And when she says:
do not spend your strength on women, your vigor on those who ruin kings. (3:3) Are these women metaphors?

When the wife of noble character is introduced.  Is this a way that a personification begins?

A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. (31:10-11)

Perhaps the woman like wisdom is to be admired and valued.  But that doesn’t take away her flesh and blood.

I think this is a wonderfully practical chapter for women to meditate on and men to delight in over their wives (or mothers!).  I think my wife is a proverbs 31 woman.  As a man, I will not try and be a woman of noble character (ohhh! yuck!) - but delight in my wife of noble character.

Thanks Scott for the comment!

I agree that the woman in Proverbs 31 is not a ‘real’ woman.  I’m not sure she’s exactly a ‘personification of wisdom’ either - at least not in the same way that the woman of Prov 8 is.  I think (as I said in the second post) she is a kind of ‘identikit picture’ of a woman who fears the LORD - ie. a literary construct who functions as an example of a person putting wisdom into practice.  So while wisdom in chapter 8 says ‘listen to me’, the woman in Prov 31 offers an example of a person who has listened to wisdom.

Nicole,

Thanks for putting my thoughts better than I could and for not reading your post more carefully!

All wisdom is concentrated into this one woman and as such she is the prime example of what it would look like if someone could hold all wisdom at once. As you say, the ideal identkit example. Good call.

Andrew,

While Nicole’s comment balanced this women so that she is not purely a personification, surely you can’t hold to the other extreme?

With all due respect to your wife - and mine! - does she weave and sew (v11) shop for the family (v14) get up before sunrise to cook (v15) speculate on real estate (v16) make her own bedding (v23) etc?

If Prov 31 is reduced solely to flesh and blood, then it does make a bit of nonsense out of the whole thing.

Sorry, one more thought.

Andrew, you comment that it is ‘a wonderfully practical chapter for women to meditate on and men to delight in over their wives’.

On the level of Nicole’s identikit example, sure. But on another level, surely not?

Which person (women or man) could ever fulfill all these characteristics? Because it is an idealized portrait, then it may drive more people to a sense of failure than satisfaction if we use it as a check list.

Furthermore, how do we use some of these things practically? “She makes linen garments and sells them” (v24). How do you do that practically? Does it mean all wise women have to be dressmakers? Or do you take it figuratively . . . in which case; shouldn’t this be the lenses for the portrait as a whole?

Hey Scott.  You’ve changed your tune.  I’m disagreeing with:

1. you calling the woman of chapter 31 ‘wisdom personified’. 

and

2. thinking that we should ‘neuter’ the chapter and apply it men.

I stand by my claim that my wife is a proverbs 31 wife because she works hard for our family and fears the Lord.  I can trust her 100% and she is the best thing going for me.

Furthermore, I think there is an odd way that women (and some men) read Prov 31 which see it as a burden rather than just a description of beautiful womanhood.

I think (as women)we sometimes use the fact that the Prov 31 woman is a literary construct to absolve ourselves of the responsibility to use her as a model. Even as a literary construct, she is still an example to be emulated.

I think the greatest danger for most women who might read this blog is not that we would feel compelled to run off and become dress makers. Our problem is more that we want to so theorise the Prov 31 woman that we don’t have to copy her example at all.

I also don’t think that feeling like a failure when we look at her is all that much of a bad thing. Scripture constantly exposes my failure, drives me to the cross where that failure is dealt with and points me to the wonderful reality that God’s Spirit is at work transforming me.

I have found your thoughts provocative and helpful Nicole, thankyou!!

I have never disagreed with the good point that Cathy / Nicole makes (that Prov 31 is to be an example and guide), all I am saying is let’s not be reductionist about this women, but read her responsibility in light of the wisdom genre.

When I said, ‘she is not purely a personification’ I wasn’t changing my tune to allow for more application.

I was just asking if a simple 1 to 1 direct comparison was the best way to lay claim to the wisdom that the end of Proverbs offers. To say a literary figure is a personification (rather than flesh and blood) is not to make the character irrelevant or academic. She is most certainly there for teaching rebuking correcting and training!

Rather than ‘neutering’ her, this actually makes her more accessible for every Christian to learn wisdom from, rather than her just being avalible for the ladies. As such, I can make sense of her skill as a dressmaker - but if you insist that she is a real person and all women today must be like her by direct comparison, you have to do some fancy foot work somewhere.

But ‘nuff said - there are more important things from this post worthy of discussion!

A few quick clarifications…

- I think she’s not a ‘real’ person
- I think she’s meant to be an example
- I think she’s a she
- I want to imitate her example, but my different situation (eg. the ‘wartime’ context of life in the last days) means that I won’t be the same as her in every detail
- I’m glad my husband is like her in some ways (he fears the LORD, he gets up early...) but I REALLY don’t want him to be her!
- I think our gender-confused culture (and our own sin) will make us want to read her in an overly generic way and make us uncomfortable about the aspects of her life that are specifically a model for wives and mothers.  We should resist this pressure.
- I think our shallow, selfish, now-focussed culture (and our own sin) will make us want to have her prosperity and success and popularity - to be goddesses (or princesses!) presiding over our own little domestic paradise, without taking seriously the difference that it makes to be living as disciples of Jesus in the last days.  We should resist this pressure too.

I have nothing particularly to add; I just wanted to say how much I enjoy some debate happening in the comments. And thanks to all involved in putting this blog together. Nicole, as always, I appreciate your thoughts.

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